American Idol Grand Finale Songs
Wednesday June 25th 2008, 7:54 pm
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SEASON 7- David Cook "Time of My LIfe"

I been waiting for my dreams to turn into something, I could believe in
And looking for that magic rainbow on the horizon, I couldn’t see it
Until I let go, gave in the love, watched all the bitterness burn
Now I’m coming alive body and soul, Feeling my world starts to turn
And I’ll taste every moment and live it out loud
I know this is the time; this is the time to be
More than a name or face in the crowd
I know this is the time; this is the time of my life
Time of my life
Holding onto things and vanish them to the air, left me in pieces
But now I’m rising from the ashes, finding my wings
And all that I needed was there all along, within my reach
As close as the beat of my heart
And I’ll taste every moment and live it out loud
I know this is the time; this is the time to be
More than a name or face in the crowd
I know this is the time; this is the time of my life
Time of my life
And I mount on the edge of forever ready to roar
Keeping my feet on the ground, arms open wide, facing the sun
And I’ll taste every moment and live it out loud
I know this is the time; this is the time to be
More than a name or face in the crowd
I know this is the time; this is the time of my life
The time of my life
More than a name or face in the crowd
I know this is the time; this is the time of my life
This is the time of my life…
The time of my life!
SEASON 6- Jordin Sparks "This is My Now"
There was a time I packed my dreams away.
Living in a shell, hiding from myself.
There was a time when I was so afraid.
I thought I’d reached the end,
But baby that was then
I am made of more than my yesterdays.
This is my now, and I am breathing in the moment.
As I look around
I can’t believe the love I see.
My fears behind me, gone are the shadows and doubt
That was then, this is my now.
I have to decide,
Was I gonna to play it safe.
Or look somewhere deep in side,
Try to turn the tide,
And find the strength to take that step of faith.
This is my now, and I am breathing in the moment.
As I look around
I can’t believe the love I see.
My fears behind me, gone are the shadows and doubt
That was then, this is my now.
And I have the courage like never before, yeah.
I’ve settled for less now I’m ready for more,
Ready for more.
This is my now, and I am breathing in the moment.
As I look around I can’t believe the love I see.
My fears behind me, gone are the shadows and doubt
That was then, this is my now.
I’m living in the moment
I look around I can’t believe the love I see.
My fears behind me, gone are the shadows and doubt
That was then, this is my now.
This is my now.
SEASON 5-Taylor Hicks "Do I Make You Proud"

I’ve never been the one to raise my hand,
That was not me and now that’s who I am,
Because of you I am standing tall,
My heart is full of endless gratitude,
You were the one the one to guide me through,
Now I can see and I believe
It’s only just beginning,
*Chorus*
This IS what we dream about,
But the only question with me now,
Is do I make you proud,
Stronger than I’ve ever been now,
Never been afraid of standing out,
Do I make you proud,
I guess I’ve learned, to question is to grow,
That you still have faith, is all I need to know,
I’ve learned to love, my self in spite of me,
And I’ve learned to walk, the road that I believe,
This what we dream about,
But the only question with me now,
Is do I make you proud,
Stronger than I’ve ever been now,
Never been afraid of standing out,
Do i make you proud,
Everybody needs to rise up,
Everybody needs to be loved, to be loved,
This what we dream about,
But the only question with me now,
Is do I make you proud,
This what we dream about,
But the only question with me now,
Is do I make you proud,
Stronger than I’ve ever been now,
Never been afraid of standing out,
But do I make you proud,(2x)
This what we dream about,
But the only question with me now,
Is do I make you,
Do I make you proud.
SEASON 4- Carrie Underwood "Inside Your Heaven"

I’ve been down
Now I’m blessed
I felt a revelation coming around
I guess it’s right, it’s so amazing
Everytime I see you I’m alive
You’re all I’ve got
You lift me up
The sun and the moonlight
All my dreams are in your eyes
I wanna be inside your heaven
Take me to the place you cry from
Where the storm blows your way
I wanna be the earth that holds you
Every bit of air you’re breathin’ in
A soothin’ wind
I wanna be inside your heaven
When we touch, when we love
The stars light up
The wrong becomes undone
Naturally, my soul surrenders
The sun and the moonlight
All my dreams are in your eyes
And I wanna be inside your heaven
Take me to the place you cry from
Where the storm blows you away
And I wanna be the earth that holds you
Every bit of air you’re breathing in
A soothing wind
I wanna be inside your heaven
When minutes turn to days and years
If mountains fall, I’ll still be here
Holdin you until the day I die
And I wanna be inside your heaven
Take me to the place you cry from
Where the storm blows you away
I wanna be inside your heaven
Take me to the place you cry from
Where the storm blows you away
I wanna be the earth that holds you
Every bit of air you’re breathin’ in
A soothin’ wind
I wanna be inside your heaven
Oh yes I do
I wanna be inside your heaven
SEASON 3- Fantasia Barrino "I Believe"

Have you ever reached a rainbows end?
And did you find your pot of gold?
Ever catch a shooting star?
And tell me how high did you soar?
Ever felt like you were dreaming
Just to find that your awake?
And that magic that surounds you
Can lift you up and guide you on your way
I can see it in the stars across the sky
Dreamt a thousand dreams before
Now I finally realize
You see I ‘ve waited all my life
For this moment to arrive
And finally
Yeah, yeah
When you look out in the distance
You see you never was to far
oh no, heaven knows your existance
and wants you to be everything you are
oh theres a time for every soal to cry
its in the eyes of every child
its the heart that your can say the world
and oh you should never let it go,
yeah yeah yeah,
(chorus)
Yeah, yeah yeah yea
I believe in the immposible
If I reach deep within my heart
Overcome many obstacles
Won’t let this dream just fall apart
You see I strive to be the very best
Shine my light for all to see
Cause anything is possible
When you believe
I can see it in the stars accross the sky
Dreamt a 100,000 dreams before
Now I finally realize
You see I ‘ve waited all my life
For this moment to arrive
And Finally
I believe
I said I believe
Love keeps lifting me higher
You ought to try it for yourself
Lifting me higher
Love keeps lifting me higher
higher higher higher higher
Love keeps lifting
Love keeps lifting me higher
Higher
SEASON 2 - Ruben Studdard "Flying Without Wings" (revival)

Everybody’s looking for that something
One thing that makes it all complete
You’ll find it in the strangest places
Places you never knew it could be
Some find it in the faces of their children
Some find it in their lover’s eyes
Who can deny the joy it brings
When you find that special thing
You’re flying without wings
Some find it sharing every morning
Some in the solitary lives
You’ll find it in the words of others
A simple line can make you laugh or cry
You’ll find it in the deepest friendships
The kind you cherish all your life
And when you know how much that means
You have found that special thing
You are flying without wings
So, impossible as they may seem
You’ve got to fight for every dream
Cause who to know which one you let go
Would have made you complete
But for me it’s waking up beside you
To watch the sunrise on your face
To know that I can say I love you
And in any given time or place
It’s little things that only I know
Those are the things that make you mine, oh mine
And it’s like flying without wings
Cause you’re my special thing
I’m flying without wings
You’re the place my life begins
and you’ll be where it ends
I’m flying without wings
And that’s the joy it bring
I’m flying without wings
SEASON 1- Kelly Carkson "A Moment Like This"

What if I told you it was all meant to be
Would you believe me, would you agree
It’s almost that feelin’ that we’ve met before
So tell me that you don’t think I’m crazy
When I tell you love has come here and now
Chorus: A moment like this
Some people wait a lifetime
For a moment like this
Some people search forever
For that one special kiss
Oh I can’t believe it’s happening to me
Some people wait a lifetime
For a moment like this
Everything changes but beauty remains
Some thing so tender I can’t explain
Well I may be dreamin’ but still lie awake
Can’t we make this dream last forever
And I’ll cherish all the love we share
Bridge:
Could this be the greatest love of all
I wanna know that you will catch me when I fall
So let me tell you this
Some people wait a lifetime
For a moment like this
Chorus
Some people wait a lifetime
For a moment like this
The curse of apathy
"…In the world it calls itself Tolerance; but in Hell it is called Despair. … It is the sin which believes in nothing, cares for nothing, seeks to know nothing, interferes with nothing, enjoys nothing, loves nothing, hates nothing, finds purpose in nothing, lives for nothing, and only remains alive because there is nothing it would die for…."
-Dorothy Sayers
“The Six Other Deadly Sins”
Winners on their own right

“Unlike most women, I love being pregnant. You just feel like everything about your body is there for your baby.” - on being pregnant again, now with twins.
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“Although we weren’t able to shatter that highest, hardest
glass ceiling this time, thanks to you, it’s got about 18 million
cracks in it.”
“The light is shining through like never before, filling us
all with the hope and the sure knowledge that the path will be a little
easier next time”
“It would break my heart if, in falling short of my goal, I
in any way discouraged any of you from pursuing yours, …When you
stumble, keep faith. And, when you’re knocked down, get right back up
and never listen to anyone who says you can’t or shouldn’t go on.”
- Hillary Rodham Clinton on her acknowledgment speech as she ends her presidential candidacy
Still Haven’t Found and Time of My Life lyrics
I Still Haven’t Found What I’m looking For
by U2
but I love David Cook’s rendition
watch him here
I have climbed highest mountain
I have run through the fields
Only to be with you
Only to be with you
I have run
I have crawled
I have scaled these city walls
These city walls
Only to be with you
But I still haven’t found what I’m looking for
But I still haven’t found what I’m looking for
I have kissed honey lips
Felt the healing in her fingertips
It burned like fire
This burning desire
I have spoke with the tongue of angels
I have held the hand of a devil
It was warm in the night
I was cold as a stone
But I still haven’t found what I’m looking for
But I still haven’t found what I’m looking for
I believe in the kingdom come
Then all the colors will bleed into one
Bleed into one
Well yes Im still running
You broke the bonds and you
Loosed the chains
Carried the cross
Of my shame
Of my shame
You know I believed it
But I still haven’t found what I’m looking for
But I still haven’t found what I’m looking for
But I still haven’t found what I’m looking for
But I still haven’t found what I’m looking for…
Time Of My Life lyrics
david cook singing it in AI
I been waiting for my dreams to turn into something, I could believe in
And looking for that magic rainbow on the horizon, I couldn’t see it
Until I let go, gave in the love, watched all the bitterness burn
Now I’m coming alive body and soul, Feeling my world starts to turn
And I’ll taste every moment and live it out loud
I know this is the time; this is the time to be
More than a name or face in the crowd
I know this is the time; this is the time of my life
Time of my life
Holding onto things and vanish them to the air, left me in pieces
But now I’m rising from the ashes, finding my wings
And all that I needed was there all along, within my reach
As close as the beat of my heart
And I’ll taste every moment and live it out loud
I know this is the time; this is the time to be
More than a name or face in the crowd
I know this is the time; this is the time of my life
Time of my life
And I mount on the edge of forever ready to roar
Keeping my feet on the ground, arms open wide, facing the sun
And I’ll taste every moment and live it out loud
I know this is the time; this is the time to be
More than a name or face in the crowd
I know this is the time; this is the time of my life
The time of my life
More than a name or face in the crowd
I know this is the time; this is the time of my life
This is the time of my life…
The time of my life!

DAVID COOK FEVER
Saturday June 07th 2008, 6:23 pm
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People
I first heard of David Cook from a friend, since I stopped watching American Idol several seasons ago. I almost missed out on their best contestant. I guess he is way better than any AI contestants in its history; and I bet he could top all new acts right now. He has such a great voice you could mistake him for a professional rock artist. And he’s cute to top all that. Well I guess I’ve fallen into the whole David Cook mania.

Billie Jean performance
Always be My Baby performance
Everything I do
Still Haven’t found
I don’t wanna miss a thing
Dream Big
Hero w/ David Archuleta
more about David on Wikipedia

For Us Moms
Wednesday June 04th 2008, 1:29 am
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Books
"The quickest way for a mother to get her children’s attention is to sit down and look comfortable"-Lane Olinghouse
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I Am Mommy, Hear Me Roar1
-Nancy Kennedy
A long time ago, I gave up using the name on my birth certificate and just started referring to myself as Mommy. As in:
Come give Mommy a kiss.?
Tell Mommy where it hurts.?
I told you Mommy’s ears can’t hear whining.?
Mommy’s
face looks like this because Mommy just found out that somebody used
her lace tablecloth to wipe off fingernail polish.?
I knew I
wasn’t alone on that either. I know for a fact that none of my friends
have names. We greet each other in the market:
Hi, Sarah’s mom!?
Hi, Laura’s mom!?
The vet even calls me ?Blackie’s mom.?
I
may not have a real name, but you know who I am. There’s a container of
Gak dumped in a corner of my living room carpet and the moldy remains
of a peach deemed too gross to eat stuffed in the cushions of my couch.
I walk around the house with dryer lint and used Q-tips in the pocket
of my robe. I spend the majority of my day behind the wheel of a
car—traveling hundreds of miles to and from softball practice,
cheerleading practice, and trips to the market—yet never leave the city
limits. I can’t do a quadratic equation, but I can tell you how to get
to Sesame Street.
My prayers are often frantic and generally
specific. (?Lord, please help my child throw up in the bucket and not
on the wall.?) At times I pray to be made invisible, like during PTA
meetings when they need someone to chair the fifth grade fundraising
car wash or during the Christmas program when it’s my child up on stage
singing, ?Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me,? as she
proceeds to slug the boy standing next to her.
I know you know
me. I wash my children’s faces with spit and my thumb. Pick at the dirt
behind their ears. Whine about their whining. Nag about their nagging.
Worry that I’ll never live to see the day they’ll change their
underwear without coercion or threats of bodily harm.
I have
eyes in the back of my head and a nose that can sniff out doggy doo-doo
on a sneakered foot fifty yards away. I have ears that can hear Oreo
cookies being eaten underneath the covers by a child who is supposedly
asleep. With just one sideways glance, I can tell who sharpened her
crayon with my eyeliner pencil sharpener and who
accidentally-on-purpose let the bathroom sink overflow.
A few
years ago, you would have recognized me as the one with strained
chicken and peas plastered in my hair and a faraway look in my eyes, as
I dreamed of a life that was not planned around nap time and late night
feedings. I was the one who, when asked by a poll-taker to name my
favorite male television performer, answered without hesitation, ?Ernie
from Sesame Street.?
Once upon a time I had a stomach that
didn’t fall to the floor. Once, I had hips that didn’t serve as a baby
saddle and a shelf for grocery bags. Once, I could even take a bath.
Alone. All by myself. Without someone pounding on the closed door,
asking if she could use the blue food coloring or ?just wondering? if
Super Glue ruins dining room tables.
If you looked in my
closet you’d find baggy sweats with elastic waists; big, long sweaters;
and pull-on pants. Forget Bill Blass and Anne Klein, give me Hanes Her
Way any day.
You know who I am. I eat standing up. ?Breakfast?
consists of the soggy cereal left in bowls on the kitchen table, the
ends of bread left in the bag, and blobs of strawberry jam scraped from
the counter. I grab lunch on the run from a drive-through window and
nibble on dinner as I cook it. I finish everyone else’s ice cream, then
wonder why I can’t ever seem to lose weight.
Don’t tell
anyone, but I live for bedtime. I yearn for the sounds of a child’s
slumber. I long for my own head to hit the pillow. I pine for
(yawn)?zzzzz.
You know me. I’m the one with the knot in her
stomach, praying her child will figure out how to turn over on the
playground turnover bar so she won’t be humiliated in front of her
classmates during gym class. I’m the one who drinks the powdered milk
so the rest of the family can have the ?real? stuff. I’m the one who
eagerly counted the days until both daughters went to school, then
cried when that day finally arrived.
I’m the one who willingly
suffered through morning sickness, swollen ankles, uncontrollable
crying jags, and overwhelming desires for lemon meringue pie and
out-of-season blackberries. (Not to mention pushing a bowling ball
through a part of my body a bowling ball doesn’t normally fit—twice.)
I’m
the one frightened voices call for in the middle of the night. I’m the
one who changes wet sheets at three in the morning, rocks a
nightmare-stricken preschooler back to sleep at four, then gets up at
five to let the dog out.
I’m the one who, despite an utterly
selfish nature and a propensity toward evil (in addition to an
inadequacy in and of myself and a definite lack of experience), God
chose as caretaker, teacher, and nurturer for two totally dependent
little sinners.
With apologies to the Peace Corps, I have the
toughest job anyone will ever love. I am battle-weary from refereeing
squabbles over who did or did not do the dishes last and battle-scarred
from getting smacked in the thigh by a line-driven softball during
backyard batting practice. Still, I endure.
Who am I? I am a
cooker of oatmeal and cleaner of soap scum. A taxi driver, spider
killer, purchaser of folders with pockets and prongs, pencil finder,
and dental appointment maker. Loudest cheerleader and most fervent
pray-er, encourager of dreams and holder of hands. I am a tear wiper
and boo-boo kisser, the toothbrushing gestapo and an example of faith.
You know who I am.
I am a mother.
1"I Am Mommy, Hear Me Roar" taken from Mom on the Run by Nancy Kennedy. Copyright © 1996.
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Having a baby is like writing a book…
What Flavor is your marriage?
I lost everything in the Postnatal Depression
At Wit’s End
Worms in my Tea and other Mixed Blessings
Peanut butter kisses and Mud pie hugs
Courage for the Chicken hearted
Marthas to the Max-Balanced Living for Perfectionists
Fresh Brewed Life
The Power of a Positive Mom
Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World
Growing Weary Doing Good?
To Neil, Happy Father’s Day! We Miss You…
I have found the best way to give advice to your children is
to find out what they want and then advise them to do it. -Harry S Truman: Dad
Quotes: Inspirational Quotes for Dads
Blessed indeed is the man who hears many gentle voices call
him father! -Lydia M. Child: Dad Quotes: Inspirational Quotes for Dads
It is much easier to become a father than to be one. -Kent
Nerburn: Dad Quotes: Inspirational Quotes for Dads
Noble fathers have noble children. - Euripides: Dad Quotes:
Inspirational Quotes for Dads
Better to be driven out from among men than to be disliked
of children.- Richard Henry Dana: Dad Quotes: Inspirational Quotes for Dads
By profession I am a soldier and take pride in that fact. But I am prouder – infinitely prouder – to be
a father. A soldier destroys in order to build; the father only builds, never
destroys. The one has the potentiality of death; the other embodies creation
and life. And while the hordes of death are mighty, the battalions of life are
mightier still. It is my hope that my son, when I am gone, will remember me not
from the battle field but in the home repeating with him our simple daily
prayer, ‘Our Father who art in Heaven.’- Douglas Macarthur: Dad Quotes:
Inspirational Quotes for Dads
When a child, my dreams rode on your wishes, I was your son,
high on your horse, my mind a top whipped by the lashes of your rhetoric, windy
of course.- Sir Stephen Spencer: Dad Quotes: Inspirational Quotes for Dads
If a son is uneducated, his dad is to blame. -Chinese
Proverb: Dad Quotes: Inspirational Quotes for Dads
When I was a kid, my father told me every day, ‘You’re the
most wonderful boy in the world, and you can do anything you want to.’- Jan
Hutchins: Dad Quotes: Inspirational Quotes for Dads
Fathers do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them
up in the training and instruction of the Lord. - Ephesians 6:4
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Since we used to be boys, we have
a more natural companionship with our sons; we’re more alike, and we enjoy
more of the same activities. Oddly enough, even though it’s easier for us to
be with our sons, it’s still too often a distant relationship. We need to be
intentional about building a close connection with our sons and giving them a
healthy model of what it means to be a boy, a man, and a father.
We need to be intentional about
raising up young men of character. Based on research I’ve done with about
2,000 fathers, I have identified 5 key things that sons need from their dads:
A PLAN
Sons need a dad who is thinking
about their future and taking action to prepare them for that future—whether
we’re talking about tomorrow, next week, next year, or ten years from now.
Financial planning is a good comparison, because our regular, consistent
investments will pay rich dividends for our sons’ future.
We could talk about having a plan
for a son’s vocational future—which is much more than targeting him as
a doctor, computer technician or musician. You want him to have a fulfilling
career that pays the bills and contributes to society.
There’s his relational future—talking
about what to look for in a mate, discussing what it takes to make a marriage
work, and having regular discussions about how he relates to the opposite
sex.
Third, give some thought to rites
of passage—benchmarks along the way that help signal new levels of
maturity and responsibility, and that affirm him as a beloved son.
Also, I’d suggest listing some skills,
attitudes, and values to instill in your son by the time he leaves home.
You might include financial stewardship, the ability to delay gratification,
prayer, basic auto maintenance, thankfulness, perseverance, honesty, a work
ethic, modesty, or family togetherness. Make a list, and check it from time
to time as a reminder. You’ve heard the saying: if you fail to plan, you have
planned to fail.
AN EXAMPLE
Our sons need reference points,
and usually, actions speak louder than words. Living a responsible lifestyle
can impact our children and children’s children for generations. That’s the
kind of power our example can have. A dad’s example really encompasses all
aspects of life. But let me mention a few areas where we need to be
intentional about modeling:
First is our emotions. We can
help our sons regulate their emotions and express them in responsible ways by
watching us. A lot of dads hide their emotions, like they are a weakness. But
our sons need to see our feeling side; it’s a vital part of who we are. We
need to learn to regulate our anger—and other emotions—and be a positive
model.
Our sons also need our example as husbands—especially
boys who have experienced a family break-up. When we do the work to build a
strong marriage—the communication, the thoughtful gestures and so on—that
creates powerful pictures for a son.
A MONITOR
Boys need their father to keep
track of them, hold them accountable, and correct them when necessary. The
headlines have been filled with stories of boys and young men who weren’t
monitored in a healthy way. But we must teach our sons that we’re watching
them, and we’re not going to stand by and watch them disregard what we know
is best for them. I encourage dads to check in regularly with their
sons—especially on two issues:
Respect. Many young men have lost a sense of respect, and it
especially shows in their speech. We hear them trash talking, cursing and
joking coarsely, or denigrating women. So we need to monitor the way our sons
are talking, and teach them to use their speech for positive ends—like
articulating thoughts and feelings, building relationships, giving
encouragement and speaking words of life and peace.
The second is purity, which
is another area in which our modeling is important. We know that alluring
images assault us from all sides, and we need to prepare our sons for battle
and help them maintain self-control. A boy’s passion is a good gift, but it’s
important that he protect that gift, and see that it isn’t corrupted by the
false or immoral views he will hear. So we need to check in regularly and
monitor how our sons are doing in this area.
MORAL AND SPIRITUAL BENCHMARKS
These are events, experiences, or
habits that help to activate your son’s faith and teach him what it means to
live a life that looks out beyond himself. We can focus on three areas that
are important to a son’s moral development:
Respect for authority. Recently I told a group of young women that, as they
think about what they want in a husband, it’s important to ask, Does he
respond to authority in a proper way? Does he respect those who are over him?
Submitting to authority will help teach a son humility.
Spiritual vitality. Dads, by your example, your son will gain an
appreciation for prayer and other acts of devotion. Many fathers are absent
from equipping their sons in this area. And if boys grow up without a
masculine model of spiritual vitality, they may view faith as a feminine
pursuit. But a real man shows both compassion and strength, humility and
decisiveness. So while we strive to model submission, humility and love, we
also need to show our sons that walking by faith also requires toughness,
resourcefulness, and courage.
Real-life experiences of service—memorable, life-changing events and acts of service. Give
your son many experiences serving others—from the family whose car has broken
down on the side of the road … to the inner-city project or homeless
shelter in your community … to the missions trip to Brazil. Maybe these
could even be combined with rites of passage activities with our sons.
LOVE
We need to cultivate love—or
responsible action toward others in our sons.
Good communication is vital. We fathers need to make communication a high
priority, so we’re teaching our sons by example and through practice. In a
nutshell, we listen first before making our opinions known, and we do away
with lectures in favor of two-way discussions. We’re also open to receiving
feedback, even if it’s negative. And what’s so important—we take the
initiative in rebuilding relationships when fractures occur. We have the
courage to admit when we’re wrong and seek forgiveness. See, those are all
demonstrations of love.
The other key factor is closely
related, but worth mentioning separately: showing affection. Boys with
affectionate fathers develop positive self-esteem, they tend to thrive in
schoolwork, and have fewer gender identity issues. So, instead of a pat on
the back or a tousle of the hair, give your son a big, old-fashioned bear
hug—and do it often.
Verbal affection is important as well. Positive words give sons confidence
and belonging, and again provide a model of a man who can express love in
healthy ways. We need to tell our sons how much they means to us, point out
their positive character traits, and just say, “I love you, and I’m proud to
be your dad.”
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Essay by a boy in 2nd grade:
My dad is the best dad ever. He
taught me how to make a wooden airplane. It was the best plane ever. We are
true pals. I would kiss a pig for him.
Essay by a boy in 8th grade:
One of the funnest times I have
had with him was on a camping trip with the boy scouts. We fished, hiked, and
carved wood. At night, he snored so loud we thought it was a bear. It was a
great experience.
Essay by a boy in 2nd grade:
My dad is a really good fisher. He
works hard so that mom can stay home with me and my sister and take care of
us. My dad likes to play with warrior toys. Even though he doesn’t want
anyone else to know. I also like when we watch sports together and he jumps
around and yells at the TV. But I guess what my dad really means to me - he
is my best friend, my role model, and when I grow up, I want to be just like
him. Someone who loves his family so much that he sacrifices everything of
himself. I love my dad.
Essay by a boy in 7th grade:
He’s the type of guy that you can
talk to about school, other boys or just plain girlfriends.
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One of the best things a father can do for his kids is love their mother and
build a strong marriage. The effort you put into your marriage is worth it to
your children.
To prove that, I’m going right to the source. Just listen to this sixth
grade girl who wrote about her father for one of our essay contests. She
writes:
Everybody in my family has had to put up a lot with all the
things that have gone wrong. One thing about this divorce is that when I go
over to my friends’ house to spend the night or something, their fathers
usually come in and say, "good-night," not "good-bye." When
my father comes over to get something and he is about to leave, he always comes
over and kisses me on the cheek and then says "good-bye," and walks
out. And it hurts a lot. Sometimes I want to just cry. I wish this never
happened. . .
This girl feels the pain so deeply that she is tuned in to subtle nuances
like the difference between "good-night" and "good-bye."
Her father may see her regularly and show her physical affection, but still the
dominant images of her father will always bring her pain.
Compare that to what another youngster, a fourth grader, wrote in her essay:
"He treats my mom very nicely, which makes me feel wanted."
A strong marriage breeds security. The child with two
parents who are still in love—and show it—does not need to fear that the
foundation of her life is suddenly going to shake and buckle and split apart.
Even more than that, your marriage relationship is a model for your
children’s future relationships—dating and marriage.
Your sons are taking subconscious notes. They’re asking: What does it mean
to be a husband? How should I treat women? Your daughters also have their eye
on you. Giving themselves to a man in marriage can be a fearful thing; they’re
asking themselves how well their mother fared in the deal.
One of the greatest legacies you can leave your children (and your
yet-unborn grandchildren) is the firm believe that marriage is not to be taken
lightly. It’s worth committing to. It’s worth sticking it out through the tough
times. Your marriage is worth every ounce of effort you can put into it.