A MUCH NEEDED ADVICE
Believe it or not, your combative nature is going to help you get
farther in life than your compassionate nature ever could. The squeaky
wheel gets the oil, as they say, and you’ll get more attention when you
let someone know that you’re expecting it. Being afraid of conflict can
keep you from getting scarred in any battles, but it will also keep you
from proving to yourself that you can handle yourself in a fight. So
step up and don’t be afraid!
Getting to know myself in the Daily Survey - July 2008
‘I Am Not Easily Shocked’
‘I Am a Work In Progress’.
‘I Love Bubbles’
‘I Am Nice But I’m Not An Angel’
‘I Love Feminine Women’
‘I Am More of a Guy Than a Girl At Times’
‘I Like to Break the Rules Sometimes’
‘I Want to banish Insecurity From My Life’
‘I Am Introspective’
‘I Am Beginning to Realise the Power I Have As a Sensual Woman’.
Gone Now…
Can’t believe that Brad Renfro just died recently. He used to be my No.1 crush during my Tiger Beat days (well, of course there’s Edward Furlong also, and Elijah Wood, and Leo). He starred in 4 of my all-time favorite movies: The Client, The Cure, Sleepers, and Tom and Huck. I just can’t believe it; I had to read like a dozen articles before I had my sanity back. But then he suffered from the curse of Hollywood-lifestyle: drugs and alcohol. Life in the fast lane proved too much for this beautiful young man. I just hope he is resting in a better place now.
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memories from the past (blog post on the young Brad Renfro and his past teacher).
Brad Renfro (an account from a person who knew Brad Renfro)
bradrenfro.org
more Brad news
one of the few shots where he is actually smiling…
It’s All in the Mind
"Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve. Dream
great dreams and make them come true. Do it now. You are unique. In all
the history of the world there was never anyone else exactly like you,
and in all the infinity to come there will never be another you. Never
affirm self-limitations. What you believe yourself to be you are. To
accomplish great things, you must not only act, but also dream, not
only plan, but also believe. If you have build castles in the air, your
work need not be lost; put foundations under them. Yes you can.
Believing in magic. You can always better your best. You don’t know
what you can do until you try. Nothing will come of nothing. If you
don’t go out on a limb, you’re never going to get the fruit. There is
no failure except in no longer trying. Hazy goals produce hazy results.
Clearly define your goals. Write them down, make a plan for achieving
them, set a deadline, visualize the results and go after them. Just
don’t look back unless you want to go that way. Defeat may test you; it
need not stop you. If at first you don’t succeed, try another way. For
every obstacle there is a solution. Nothing in the world can take the
place of persistence. The greatest mistake is giving up. Wishing will
not bring success, but planning, persistence, and a burning desire
will. There is a gold mine within you from which you can extract all
the necessary ingredients. Success is an attitude. Get your right. It
is astonishing how short a time it takes for very wonderful things to
happen. Now; show us the colors of your rainbow."
-by Barbara Smallwood & Steve Kilborn
What Makes a Happy Marriage?
"What makes a happy marriage? It is a question which all men and women ask one another…The answer is to be found, I think, in the mutual discovery, by two who marry, of the deepest need of the other’s personality, and the satisfaction of that need." - Pearl Buck
Things I’ve learned from reading the book "Getting the Love You Want"
- We enter marriage with childhood wounds we expect our partners to heal for us.
- We must know our deepest needs and be able to communicate it to our partner.
- We must learn how to deal with our partner’s criticism of us. We must learn how to say what we want without making the other feel attacked.
- We must stop believing that our partners can read our minds.
- We must focus on healing our partner; in turn we will be able to heal ourselves.
- We must learn to be in touch with our anger and rage; not be consumed by it or repress it.
- We must also learn to deal with our partner’s anger by acknowledging his right to express his emotions.
- We must give without expecting anything in return.
- We must treat our partners as a passionate friend and our ally; not our surrogate parent.
- We must simply act in a loving way.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. -1 Corinthians 13:4-7
